Take a look at this picture.
She’s beautiful, isn’t she?
Now look closer, and imagine her with no make-up. Suddenly she looks like she is maybe 13, and could be one of our daughters.
If I enlarged this image, you’d see she is modeling a lovely purple lace bra for Victoria’s Secret.
Am I wrong that I find this a bit disturbing? Am I just getting old and crotchety? Am I just jealous, and pining away for my lost youth? Should I just go along with the fact that young girls are selling sexy lingerie, being portrayed as much older than they are? I admit that I don’t know who this model is. Perhaps she is actually in her 20’s with a very youthful face. But I doubt it.
I am well aware that our teenagers are growing up and maturing, at least physically, much more quickly than we did when I was a teen. And, those teenage girls are shopping at Victoria’s Secret. And I’m pretty confident that no one was holding a gun to this young lady’s head to force her pose for a well-known, popular fashion retailer.
But are we (the media, Hollywood, retailers, the internet) encouraging our children to grow up too fast? What happened to running around like a tom boy, or giggling over celebrity magazines, or even, GASP, playing with dolls and toys? What happened to being a little girl? Does that only happen now from age 6 – 10? Then BAM, it is adulthood? Is this how we are training our “Real Women” of the future?
I realize I may be over-reacting. After all, I have a son, no daughters. As it is, I see my son growing up way too fast – at 11, he’s struggling between those days of being a cute, fun little boy vs. starting to act like a cool dude teenager. So I can only imagine how much more challenging it can be to have a daughter. As much as I’d be proud of my beautiful daughter for growing up to be a successful model, (if that is what makes her happy), I know I wouldn’t be comfortable seeing her modeling lingerie for the world before she’s even out of high school.
Ok, I will now step down off of my soap box. Because I think I’ll go see if my son wants to play a game or watch cartoons before it is too late.
As a monther of two
beautiful daughters (I don’t
know I am biast I guess) I
completely agree. You can’t open a magazine, turn on the television, or pop on the internet without having to deal with what I believe is “EXCESSIVE” negative influence on today’s youth; girls or boys for that matter. Everything in there world seems to revolves around their appearance, looking at least 5 years older then they are and fitting in. As parents we try and hold the reins as long as we can however, I am really struggling with the force of the pull.